Swami Muktananda
The depression
and dissatisfaction of so many married women comes about because they
fail to recognize and accept marriage as a sadhana. The
transformation of the outer personality and refinement of the inner
nature is not an easy process, and we should not expect marrigae to
be always easy.
(...)
The Mother of
Sri Aurobindo Ashram has said: "To unite your physical
existences and your material interests, to associate yourselves so as
to face together the difficulties and successes, the defeats and
victories of life - this is the very basis of marriage - but you know
already that it does not suffice. To be one in aspiration and
ascension, to advance with the same step on the spiritual path - such
is the secret of a durable union".
In India a
woman traditionally loves and reveres her husband as her guru, and he
loves and reveres her as devi, as a goddess. This does not mean that
one or the other is spiritually superior, but that the act of loving
is the means to transformation, and that the purpose of marriage is
to help one another to become greater that we could be alone.
We have firstly
to recognize that difficult situations and the elements we dislike in
other people can be our great teachers, for they point out our
resistances, prejudices and emotional blockages. What we dislike in
others is often some quality that exists unrecognized in ourselves,
or which touches a sensitive area of weakness in us. It is our
resistance and attachment that makes certain situations uncomfortable
or frustrating, and when we confront such situations repeatedly, we
should ask ourselves: "What can I learn from this?" If we
are sincere and attentive to our inner voice, that situation will
yield up its gift of insight and we will be free of one more
limitation.
(...)
Fonte:
Muktananda, Swami. Nawa Yogini Tantra, "Yoga for women", India: Yoga Publications Trust, 2006, pp. 78-79.
